Judge Everything As Good--A Fun Game

Barry Kaufman who wrote "Happiness Is A Choice" said that one of the six keys to choosing happiness is to let go of judgements.

He then says, "We could begin by judging everything as good and then grow into letting go of judgements completely."

So I decided to make this into a game.

So I looked around me and noticed things such as my messy room, my unmade bed as well as thought about a variety of things such as my taxes I haven't begun yet and decided to judge each of them as good one at a time.

What I found was pretty amazing!

I noticed I started feeling happier and happier as I continued with the exercise.

This energized me.

So I challenge you to do the same exercise.

Look at your life and make a list of things.

They can be things you like, dislike and feel neutral about.

And just begin to judge the things as good in some way one at a time.

Notice how your happiness expands as you make these judgements.

Sure nothing is inherently good or bad but judging them as good makes us feel so good.

Try it yourself and then leave me a comment about the exercise below.

How to choose your attitude

Recently, I've been thinking about exactly how to teach
people to choose their attitudes.

I came up with the following method that you can

practice on your own.

First, pick a challenging situation.

I chose my attitude about planning my day since I

don't seem to do it.

Second, brainstorm different attitudes you could have

about this situation.

I decided that I could feel bored by planning, I could

be excited about the possibilities of the day, I could

be fearful that I won't make the right decisions, I

could be curious about what I'll come up with, I could

feel empowered by my ability to plan.

Third, try on each attitude in your imagination to see

which one you like best.

After trying on the various attitudes I came up with I

decided that I'd like to feel empowered by my ability

to plan.

Fourth, imagine using your new attitude in the future.

So I imagined that tomorrow when my day begins I'll

start planning. And I imagine myself feeling empowered

by planning.

That's really all there is to it.

The reason I suggest comming up with several options in

step 2 is that when you do you'll find that it becomes

more real to you that you do have a choice of

attitudes.

If you only think, I can feel good or bad sometimes

those choices aren't enough to awaken that part of you

that can choose your attitudes.

So try this technique at least three times over the

next few days and let me know what happens for you.